Forgiveness

I received a Christmas Card in the mail last night. I know usually something I get excited about especially since it usually has pictures and that kind of thing in it. Not so this time I got one from my brother in law... He made sure to chastise me and remind me of forgiveness. Now don't get me wrong I have no problem with forgiveness in fact I think it's very important, however, to be forgiven I feel like you need to ask for forgiveness. I also feel like in the situation that we've been in over the past year forgiveness in next to impossible. I also think that after you treat someone like crap for 5 years forgiveness is a little easier said than done. You know maybe forgiveness would come when they asked for forgiveness and stop treating my child different than other relatives. I mean my son doesn't know them and I really don't care if he does know them. They have chosen not to see him, not to spend time with, not to be around him, and ultimately that is their choice.

He then mentioned Family and how important Family was and this is something I know. My Family is very important to me, but what he doesn't know is that our personal family has had a rough year and as a family we have perservered and conquered our issues. His family is not our family our number 1 family is our small little group made up of 3 and a half. As long as there is a roof over our heads, love in our hearts, and two children who are taken care of then I'm not worried about his family. Our extended families once married come second and I have to say that we are closer to my family then this other family. None of them invite us to do anything or request spending time with us so why would we make ourselves readily available. It's not going to happen, and it might as well be forgotten about.

Finally, Christmas is a special time of year and how dare you chastise someone in a Christmas Card that is supposed to be sent in good will. Not the best forum for such a thing.